When is the best time to....

There is the right time for everything. And in Singapore context the perfect answer for "what time is it" is always "it's Tiger Time". It sticks in the head so well that 10 yrs has passed and we are still doing it. kudos to the creative team.

Anyway, today's topic is about. When is the best time to ...

From "How I met your mother"

Yes, if you are a HIMYM's fan you should know that look on Ted's face. When is the best time to say "I Love You" . Is it 1 day into the relationship? Is it 1 month into the relationship ? or is it almost never ? 

From what I've notice, Singapore being a country of mixed culture and high exposure to media and oversea's culture ( expat, oversea's work, study trip and even exchange) has caused Singaporean to have a good mix of different concept about love and relationship. I mean I am sure this is happening every where around the globe due to globalisation but I am just talking about locally. 

I would normally divide local youngsters ( sorry, I'm not making a racists remark in this case but I only know the Chinese cause I hangout mainly with the Chinese) into two main group. The "Cheena Pai" and the"The Ang Mo Pai" . So you fall into either group or maybe for some cases like myself I would say I'm pretty much an in between. 

The Cheena Pai 

How to identify them - Speaks Chinese, play mahjong, sing KTV, go KTV Pub, Tiger is fine, Drinks Martell. 

The Ang Mo Pai 

How to identify them - Speaks English, play strip poker, watch MTV, go clubbing, Erdinger Only and drinks drink with interesting names like Martini, Graveyard or some Green Zombie. (Just make up your own name.) 

On top of the general ways mentioned above they also have a little differences when it comes to relationship. 

The Cheena Pai

Dating mostly means pak tor and couple. Will probably commit faster and say "I love you" when they officially becomes a couple. Unlikely to hookup and have sex until after being a couple unless they are friends with benefit, ONS or drunk. 

The Ang Mo Pai

Prefers the dating game. Date such as dinner date, outing date and etc. Might have sex first then decide if they should be a couple and if there is no kissing at the end of the night, the date might considered as failed. Harder for them to commit into a BGR relationship and spend a long long long long time to really say the 3 word - I love you. 

Well, of course the above is plainly my observation and might not be right or in fact like I say, Singapore being a very well exposed country many of you might be a in between of both traditional and new age. 

The Makeout Effect 

Couple saying I love you half way during or after making out (or sex). At this moment is the moment of love and bliss(unless the sex or makeout ain't really good. too much teeth or too much tongue.. wadever) and it's very easy for couple to feel "love". Thus, saying I love you during that period is totally not true. He/she could mean that "I love the sex", "I love you(r) blowing" or many other possibilities. 

So after so much talking, what is the best moment to say the 3 words ? It will be an unplanned moment. Many a times in life there are too many things that you planned for that will not happen the way you wanted it to be. Thus, spontaneous is truth. It's THE moment. Be cool about it. You will know when the moment is.  You might even say it at the most unexpected moment. 

As for me, I love you (all) . 

XOXO !