The Shoes Theory

Finding "The One"

How to choose a pair of perfect shoes?

This is how this goes.  Ever thought of the pair of shoes which you really wanted and start to go on the hunt from places to places ? Sounds familiar to the ladies ? What about to the gentlemen ? Is this how you guys normally shop for a pair of shoes?

- Bright Color
- Must go with my (certain) dress
- High heels
- Price range around $100.

Next, is that the only pair of shoe you will end up with ? I know the answer, simple - NO. You might pick up another pair of shoe which is slightly cheaper cause it's on sale(which might not be what you wanted), you might pick up a pair which is a little more expensive than you thought but it looks really awesome and it matches the (other) dress at home. - Familiar enough ?

What am I talking about ? I am talking about in relationship, very often we setup to find a girl/guy who is who you really wanted her/him to be but you will probably end up with someone else.

- Tall
- Dark
- Handsome ( don't ask me why it is always these 3 stereotypes that come hand in hand)
- Rich
- Funny

So maybe you will pick up one who is Tall, Dark but not handsome. Or maybe just rich but not funny or maybe even none of the above but you are growing a little old yourself and you decided to put yourself up on the sale section and choose him instead. (Sad but it's true)

How did all these happened ? When will you know who is "THE ONE" for you ? Did "THE ONE" comes in mind first like before you even started searching for him/her or did you just grow into the one you are currently having and he/she just became the one all out of a sudden ? And is the one really the one? Or is the one just a habit?

There is no "The One"

Question : How can the one be the one in this shoes theory ?

Yes ! In fact in the shoes theory, we do not believe in "the one".

Simple - Can you wear you heels for your yoga lesson ? Can you wear you running shoes to a ball ? Can you wear your sandals and do a tap dance? I guess you get my point now. Your partner can never be the one person who can do everything with you.

Analogy - typical "wife material" wife might not be able to help you at work. A very independent wife might not be the best house wife. A wild and fun girlfriend might not be your kid's best mother. 

No, I am not telling you that every person should have 4 wives or 5 husbands ( that's a little too much both financially and physically ).  What I am saying is that everyone has their own short comings and everyone has limits. For love, you will do him/her things for him or her. I am saying that sacrifices have to be made. Neither am I telling you that you have to change you life just for your partner but I am saying you make your best choice.

Example : you really love this pair of running shoes, I suppose you have to just keep running, stop going to parties and maybe learn to dance in your running shoes. If you really can't do it? Try a pair a sandals, learn to run in it, dance a little, ignore how people laugh at you for wearing that to events but most importantly is to feel comfortable in that pair of footwear. Else ? Go barefoot might be a good solution. Stay single and just change your shoes around but remember, there's THAT many pairs of shoes one can wear at a single time. : )


The Shoes Theory


In conclusion, You might not get the shoes you set up to find but you might find a pair you grow to like, in fact you might like it so much you will never want to take it off. The shoes you like might not bring you everywhere, but I am sure there are somewhere that you went with this pair of shoes and you will always be glad for where it had brought you to.


Mr. Smith, have you found the pair of shoes you always wanted ?