What is your sexual KPI ???

Some people take sex as a process of love making while some just take it as a very physical activity. Who are these group of people ? More likely than never they are people who believe and get themselves involved in more casual sex than anything else. Someone once told me that " it ain't a date if we didn't have sex".

What is it about casual sex that wethey are looking for? I am pretty sure that there are different expectation for each individual right? Since it's not love what could it be? What are your sexual Key Performance Index (KPI) ? I have interviewed a few friends and give it a thought as well and below are a little list that I came out with. As usual, not too sure how fair god is but I am always fair, 1 list for the gentlemen and 1 list for the ladies.

For Him -

Size :

This one goes both way, some say it's important while some says it's about how you use your tool but end of the day majority says that size does matter and it's not just the length, the thickness plays a part too.

"The woman must have yet to meet a good size if she insist that size doesn't matters"

Duration :

There are quite a few duration we are talking about here. The duration before the man gets O (aka cum), the duration a man takes to make the woman get the O. Of course, we are talking about the right duration, not just long, if you are rocking the whole night while the woman is all ready to slp - you still failed.

"It's like what Singapore National Day's theme for 2009 says - "Come Together" "

Foreplay :

This is almost like the most important thing? From the survey, most woman place this as the most important part. This could be something the man even imagine right? How could it be in such a way that the most important part of the steak not being the steak but the coleslaw? Which ever way it is, since the woman is our target audience, we better play by the rule.

"Reminder : driving the car back to her home ain't consider foreplay. =) "

Finding Your Way.

Many man choose not to believe in the power of G-spot. For example for our dear researcher Andrea Burri. According to this article on bbc, nah.. I am not going into the article since I am a believer of finding the spot. You can read it here. Finding the spot is important, regardless which "tool" u are using, the dick, fingers, tongue or god knows what.

"There's a chinese saying which goes "对症下药“ which simply means you need to apply the right solution to the right problem. "

Bonus Tips

These are some points which some has mention which I do not think it's main KPI but i think these are like stretch target for you to achieve a better "performance bonus"

• A shaved/wax crouch.
• Calling the right name ! - yeah that's very very important.
• The mood, the feeling, feeling attached.

Honorable quote - " End of the day as long as the girl is into the guy, every fuck is a good fuck as woman are all emotionally linked" How true is this ? Ladies?

For Her

After interviewing a number of man and thinking back, it seems to me that the man are very easy to satisfy ? Some of the KPIs I get from the survey are not really tangible. Not only is it not tangible, it gives me a feeling that man are fine as long as they get a fuck ? Are man seriously that easy satisfy or are the ladies setting too much KPI for the guys to meet ?

Nevertheless, let's take a look at some of the results I've gathered.

• Pretty
• Hot
• No Armpit hair
• Shaved
• Good Foreplay ( which includes allowing paint job and a good blow job)
• Good blow job ( Subjective, on the scale of 1-5? teeth? no? )
• Accommodating ( Willingness to try new stuff and even if u dun like it, try)
• Watching out for man's ego ( dun break that heart, NEVER ask the question - "u in yet?")
• Wet (When, KY can deal with this, so I suppose it's not too much of a problem)
• Nice Moan (I dunno how u judge what is a nice moan and what is not)
• Nympho !!! ( Yes, man like nympho ! seriously who doesn't ? )

It looks like a very long list I have here for the ladies but 1 of the guys just sums it up for me, Feeling, Sound and Visual.

It seems to me that the 2 sets of KPIs set for man and woman are very very different. The set of rules for the guys are some what tangible in a way where u can calculated, be in it inches, cm, mins or hours. While on the other hand the set of rules that the ladies get are a little ambiguous. What is GOOD ? What is HOT? What is consider WET ? They are kinda what I are unmeasurable target.

With these KPIs in mind I hope that you guys can improve your sex life, if you have been doing it but not doing it right, it's about time to do an appraisal. Be it self appraisal or peer appraisal in this case. It's all good, it helps to improve your sex life. Why not? Since you are doing it might as well do it right? Right?

I am sure there are different kinda KPIs for everyone. Communication is the key in relationship and even sexual relationship too. What about you ? What are your Sexual KPI ? Did you fall into what I mentioned or are you a little different? Share with me cause sharing is caring ! = )